While talking to my mom the conversation turned towards PDA(as in public display of affection). She had a busy youth, working full time, 4 daughters and a busy household with in laws and lots of visitors. My parents never had time to do fun things with us. We didn’t take vacations, went for fun trips or to amusement parks but we read a lot, talked about history and the world and spent a lot of time together doing household chores and taking care of the people around us.
Now she regrets not spending time with us. प्यार जताने के लिए time ही नही था (there was no time to show love)-she always says. Today we were talking about my nani (grandmother). She was a tiny woman and always enjoyed hugs and kisses from all of us. She sure enjoyed our PDA. I guess she never got that from my nana (grandfather) or my mother and her siblings. Those days hugs and kisses were not the way to express love instead cooking, cleaning and feeding and generally taking care of someone was may be.
I think it is even harder for men. But things change over time and more so with grandkids. It’s so easy for us to show our love, express and verbalize our feelings these days. My phone calls with them starts and ends with kisses and love yous. I have always been a hugger and don’t mind saying it if I miss someone or love someone. On the other hand if I don’t like something I won’t mind expressing that either.
As a daughter, sister, wife, friend I need some validation and some time reciprocation of love. I do , not exactly PDA but who says no to hugs and kisses. My men ( yes all 3 ;) are smothered with love and I get plenty in return from two of them and yes I could change THE one man a little bit. He has always been a reluctant hugger in public but who cares - I am enough to make up.
What do you do? How do you show your love. Do you hug and kiss your spouse in front of your kids? Is there anything called too much of PDA ?
Would you call is PDA ;) I got it from my mom, she always loved flower but I had never seen my dad putting it there, well things change this time around.
I on the other had am a queen of PDA. So my men have to deal with it, I never shy away of showing my love to people I love.
